These days we are constantly bombarded with information.
It is easy to be unaware that our perceptions and assumptions of the world are heavily influenced by the social media content we consume.
But these assumptions are not personal to us; they are a product of our exposure and experiences.
A consequence of these assumptions for some people, is that they tend to take everything personally, which can lead to heightened anxiety, defensiveness, and emotional distress.
However, nobody can make something personal except us ourselves.
The moment we respond to criticism or feedback by taking it personally, we give away our power and allow external events or opinions to dictate our emotional state.
But what if, instead of reacting immediately with defensiveness or hurt, we asked ourselves, “What’s going on here? Why am I reacting this way?”
So why not ask yourself the following questions
Q1) Is this thought/response valid?
Q2) Is this thought/response useful?
Q3) If not, what would be the most useful thought/response I could have?
The first two questions help us recognise that although a response may be considered valid in a particular context, it is less frequently useful to us in the same context.
The third question helps us start considering longer-term consequences or potential outcomes for our response.
Why not give it a try and see for yourself what it can do for you?
Each time we do this, our emotional intelligence develops and the lens through which we view the world becomes more objective.
When we recognise that our reactions and interpretations are not fixed truths, we can adopt a more flexible and open-minded approach to challenges and conflicts.
This shift in mindset can lead to reduced anxiety, improved self-esteem, and healthier relationships with others.